For years Tom Anderson's life was withered1 up枯萎 by the memory of his part in a fraternity友爱，互助会 adventure that resulted in the death of one of his classmates. He and his wife separated after six years of marriage. Then the news about Tom changed. His wife Betty came back; he earned a fine position. One day he told me what had changed his life. "I used to think, `Nothing can undo2 what I have done.' The thought of my guilt3 would stop me in the middle of a smile or a handshake. It put a wall between my wife and me.
Then I had an unexpected visit from the person I dreaded令人畏惧的，可怕的 most to see -- the mother of the college classmate who died. "Years ago", she said, "I found it in my heart, through prayer, to forgive you. Betty forgave you. So did your friends and employers.' She paused, and then said sternly严厉地，坚决地, "You are the one person who hasn't forgiven Tom Anderson. Who do you think you are to stand out against继续抵抗，坚决反对 the people of this town and the Lord Almighty5?" "I looked into her eyes and found there a kind of permission to be the person I might have been if her boy had lived. For the first time in my adult life I felt worthy有价值的 to love and be loved."
It is only through forgiveness of our mistakes that we gain the freedom to learn from experience. But forgiving our shortcomings doesn't mean denying that they exist. On the contrary, it means facing them honestly, realistically现实地，实际地.
Can a person be all-forgiving and still be human? A scientist I know spent four years as a slave laborer劳动者，工人 in Germany. His parents were killed by Nazi8 street bullies9; his younger sister and older brother were sent to the gas chambers10. This is a man who has every reason to hate. Yet he is filled with a love of life that he conveys转达，表达 to everyone who knows him. He explained it to me the other day: "In the beginning I was filled with hatred11. Then I realized that in hating I had become my own enemy. Unless you forgive, you cannot love. And without love, life has no meaning." Forgiveness is truly the saving grace.
